"We" have a problem, too
STEP 1: Create Family Rules
Step 2: Add a Little Structure
Step 3: Positive Reinforcement
It's been awhile since I posted about this and had forgotten to post the best part of our plan: STICKERS!!! :)
Will would get a LITTLE sticker when he completed each of the tasks on his chart: stay in room until 7:00AM, get dressed, brush teeth, stretch/exercise, daily chore, learning time, nap or quiet time, bible story, brush teeth before bed, and obey throughout the day.
There was a blank sheet of paper that hung next to this chart that held the BIG stickers and possible rewards. Every day he obeyed well, he would get a BIG sticker to put on the blank sheet. If he got LITTLE stickers for at least 7 of the other 9, he got another BIG sticker. So, he could earn up to 2 BIG stickers each day.
Based on the number of BIG stickers he saved up, he chose a reward. Will and I came up with the BIG sticker rewards; they are:
3: educational computer game
5: 30 minutes of watching Thomas the Train videos on youtube
8: Special time with mom or dad
12: Use spending money
15: Go to the Park
25: New Train
When he chose a reward, he would cut the stickers off the page and "paid" me with them. He has already been rewarded with: youtube three times, video games twice, and two different nights of camping in the living room with dad.
With school starting soon, I have revamped the list and made it into a "Morning Routine" chart instead:
Now I just ask him what he still needs to do to finish his morning routine. He goes over to this chart and checks it out. Once he's completed it, he gets a BIG sticker. He'll also continue to get a BIG sticker for obeying well.
I really like this whole concept because not only is he learning what he needs to do and creating a routine, but he's earning for his "work" and saving and spending his stickers. It's like teaching him how to use money without using money!
I'm sure this idea will continue to grow and change. The rewards will get reevaluated and eventually turn into an allowance. Jeff and I haven't decided whether to give an allowance based on chores or not. The boys needs to do chores because they are part of the family (not motivated by money), but also need to learn the concept of working for their money (and if you don't work... you don't get paid).
So, what's the basis for an allowance at your house? Do your kids do chores as family work or do they do chores to get paid? I'd love to know... :)